While surfing mindlessly, I came across something nice (and true). I found out what scent would suit me the best according to my preference. It says:

You might like Woody Fragrances

You seem like the calm, nurturing type who makes others feel at ease. You have a self-confidence that’s extremely attractive. Your boho-chic aesthetic is more glam than granola, and you always look great in an effortless way. This indicates that you might like a scent that’s sexy yet earthy and unconventional. Classic woody fragrances are dominated by notes of cedar, patchouli, pine, sandalwood, and vetiver. Some newer versions are blended with exotic oriental notes, fresh citrus and lush green leaves, or feminine flowers.

Cashmere Mist

Donna Karan


Estee Lauder

You might also like Fresh Fragrances

Energetic, low-maintenance, and fun are three words that people typically use to describe you. You’re equal parts grown-up tomboy and flirty heartbreaker. This indicates you need an effervescent sparkling scent to match your outgoing personality. “Fresh” scents are loaded with zesty fruits, such as lemon, lime, and grapefruit, plus crisp greens, such as fresh-cut grass and violet leaves. Some also have refreshing water-based aromas, reminiscent of the beach.

L’Eau d’Issey

Issey Miyake


Bobbi Brown

by Shaheen Rajan
We’ve gathered up all of the beauty myths YOU were curious about and now we have answers!

Q: Is it true that 8 hours of sleep can help me lose weight?
A: Yes! When you don’t get enough sleep, your brain produces cortisol, also known as the “stress” hormone, which tells your body to store fat.

Q: Can holding a cell phone against your face make you break out?
A: Yes. Our cell phones are breeding grounds for germs, even more than doorknobs and toilet seats. Remember to wipe your phone down often.

Q: I’ve heard I don’t have to use anti-aging cream until I’m over 30. Is that true?
A: You are never too young to incorporate anti-aging products into your regimen. A daily application of sunscreen is extremely important. Over the counter creams with retinol, which helps with cell renewal, do a lot of good.

Q: Does shaving make hair grow back thicker?
A: It does not. It may feel like it does because the new hair has a blunt feel.

by Shaheen Rajan

It’s Sonakshi Sinha! Shatrugan Sinha’s Daughter!

For people who are still lost, she is the leading actress in the latest Bollywood flick-Dabaang.
When I saw her in the movie, I thought she lacks “the” glamour and is more suited for Star Plus’ soaps.
But she ignited my interest when I saw this:
But hold! In the movie she looked like this-
Then? How?
And then a friend told me she lost 30kgs. And then the world stopped-30 kgs! You mean 66.2 pounds!
Instantly I knew I had to share this.
For those interested in “how”, I apologize. I tried to find it. But couldn’t find much. Quench your thirst with the following for a while:
An interviewer asked her: You have lost a lot of weight. The transformation from fat to fit is apparent.
She said: I was anything but fit. Most credit goes to Salman but there were a lot of people around telling me to lose weight. So it started off as a conscious effort to lose weight and maintain my health but eventually when I started seeing the results, I started looking better and I started getting more confident and it translated into what I am today. However my gymming and dieting are still on, they are part of a never-ending process.
To another interviewer, she revealed:
Determination is the key
Sonakshi was 90 kgs when she was pursuing a course in fashion design. That’s when she realised that she needed to change her lifestyle, not just to lose weight but to be healthy.
‘I was determined to lose weight, so I went to the gym twice a day and had a high protein diet with no carbs. Spinning helped me tremendously. My regular fitness regime also consists of weight training. I have recently started hot yoga for toning – performing asanas in a steamed room with 40 degrees temperature.’
Diet secret
‘Stop eating carbs after six in the evening and drink several cups of green tea throughout the day.’
Sonakshi also insists that you must hit the gym along with keeping a check on your calorie intake.
Sports v/s gym
I like to workout with someone. My yoga instructor has helped me a lot. I also prefer yoga over aerobics and play tennis at times.
Quick tips on weightloss
Sorry there are no shortcuts! Sonakshi says that there is no way you can shed some kilos in a week.
‘Slow and steady wins the race, so I would never do anything drastic.’


by Shaheen Rajan
I won’t propagate against or for Dr. Aafia’s case but as it got me thinking and penning down these thoughts, I have to build my case around her and the tragedy that took place.
Essentially, all I know about her is that she was a Neuroscientist, a married woman, a social worker in post-US infiltrated Afghanistan and a mother to three children.
As per Wikipedia, criminal charges against her include a) assault and attempted murder of U.S. nationals, officers, and employees; b) Assault with a deadly weapon; and c) Carrying and using a firearm
Well, a woman who weighs 90 pounds, 5.4” tall and comes from academic background fought with US officials, snatched their weaponry and shot them…Seriously? I would strongly suggest that US officials to include more manly personnel in their team instead of men who fail to handle a woman who weighs less than an average ramp model!
Also, every third household in Pakistan is known to own, wither legally or illegally, weaponry for security reasons.
On a personal level, I find this while incident to be a piece of trash. Why would a mom run around the world with her children if terrorism was her concern? I think she was treated unjustly; Pakistani constitution slapped in its face and freedom to help the distressed a crime.
But more than that, I wanted to pen down my concerns over three issues that stem from this incident. Three questions that I would want answers for:
1.       Is it a crime to be educated in disciples that are not ordinary and have extraordinary potential?
2.       Will we ever have faith in government, legislation and constitution?
3.       Is practicing your faith obsolete and offensive?
Imagine, had Aafia not be a neuroscientist but an MBA from some good university, would she still be tortured like this? I don’t think so. People with and beyond Pakistan knew what her potential was and wanted to nub the bud before it brought them any harm. Like Aafia, many students work hard throughout their academic lives to earn a specialized degree. What message is this incident sending across?
Furthermore, this essentially curbs our potential as a nation. As if there weren’t enough forces to push us back to stone-age, now reluctance to get educated is also installed in our system.
Secondly, so far I have heard hues and cry regarding the inefficiency of Pakistani government, how they have failed to keep up with their commitments, how they have sacrificed a common man’s good for their ulterior motives. But today I realized maybe this epidemic goes beyond Pakistan. We, the masses, have no faith in government or legislation. A US government takes a decision for a very sensitive case and we refuse to consider the fact that they must have done it on some solid ground. We refuse to acknowledge their power and consider our subjective decision making skills superior to their objective ones. By no means am I saying that the decision they took was right or wrong, what I am trying to say is that unless the decision is not according to us, we protest. And considering that there will always be opponents and proponents, there will always essentially be protests-unless we learn to accept authority.
Lastly, Muslims are as human as anyone else in the world. I believe so and the world would do itself a favor by believing so as well. Let live and you shall be allowed to live in peace. Harmony and acceptance need to be instilled in cultures across the globe. High time I say!
by Shaheen Rajan

Building an impressive infrastructure over a well-laid base is not as difficult as establishing the base and dealing with hard ground realities on daily basis. Amir Adnan ventured into the world of fashion at a time when Pakistani fashion industry was a premature infant, and moreover, he entered with unconventional mind set. He wanted to revamp and create a distinct brand instead of localizing international designs. After his graduation in business, he decided to pursue his passion and trained himself without ado. He added zing to accessories like ties and life to ethnic wear of yesteryear like sherwanis. Let’s see what this larger than life designer has to say to Cherry Cross about his life, work and himself


Let’s start with a brief info about your family, personal life and education?
I am a family oriented person and love to spend time with my children. I have three of them-Shafae, Parishae and Nichae. My favorite time is when I get to watch cartoons with my kids. Other than that, I am happily married to Huma. Besides that, I got my masters degree in Business Administration from IBA.
What were you like as a boy, from your perspective?
I was an independent and self-contained. I always like building something from nothing.
Are you surprised by your life?
No, not really. I have always enjoyed changes and experiments. It makes life interesting.


When you first caught the public’s attention, you began to transform fashion’s relationship to the body. Do you feel that your concept actually changed the way people look physically?
Yes it did. Men became conscious about their appearance and took it seriously. They now spend money and evaluate themselves before going out. They understand the importance of looking good and work for it as well.
Can fashion in clothing actually change the fashion of the human body?
It definitely does. Some clothes look good on a certain type of body frame and that drives people to maintain themselves. On a general level, fashion actually gives people a reason to take care of their bodies as clothes look good when your body is in shape. Other than that, some fabrics are flattering whereas others make certain body part stand out. Clothing can change a person’s appearance drastically and people who know what suits them always manage to look good despite the event or time.
Do you think of an outfit in terms of linearity, geometry, or movement?
I incorporate all these elements. I aim for a balanced outfit that contains all these three aspects in perfect proportion.

Your business and men’s collection took the world of fashion by storm not only locally but internationally as well-how was the experience while designing this particular collection?
It was definitely interesting. When you design for your local market, it is like being in your comfort zone. You know the people, you know their likes and dislikes, you know what do they want and need, so there is no uncertainty while designing for them. International scenario is entirely different. You don’t know the people nor can you predict their reactions. But when your designs and collections are accepted and appreciated there, it feels really good.

What were the challenges you had to face while climbing up the ladder of success?
Personal growth was one challenge that I had to face and conquer to be successful. I had to accept challenges that were hurled my way and go beyond them, even if they were larger than life. I had to lead people and climb the ladder with my team. I frequently questioned myself if I am capable of leading people and ensuring growth.
Have you ever been bothered by the restrictions that are imposed on men in terms of how they are dressed?

Men around the world are subject to many restrictions in terms of their attire and color choices. We are stereotyped only the basis of what color do we wear. Masculinity is seriously fragile in this case. But it doesn’t bother me personally at all. I do not endorse these restrictions at all.
What have been the most-interesting moments for fashion, in general?
The power of fashion fads-the fact that it creates a massive frenzy and you see almost everyone adapting to them. And then a new fad emerges and the same cycle continues.

You have managed to stay current over decades. Many of your peers have taken a less active role, or even taken themselves out of the business, yet it’s hard for us to envision Amir Adnan without Amir Adnan at the helm. Can you envision that?
I hope no one can envision such a thing!


With all your products, you have created a lifestyle beyond just clothing. Is this your goal? Do you feel like you’re something beyond a fashion designer?
My goal is to pass on hope, dreams and an opportunity to feel good about themselves. You buy clothes or accessories to look good, and that what I want.
Has the time come to rethink certain aspects of the fashion world? What position do you take in mediating the direction society is taking?
Change is the only constant one can have and adapting to it requires adjustment of perception. We need to adjust to them immediately to cater to specific consumer needs. For example, during this time for recession, people are changing their spending patterns and want to get best value for their money. So as designers, we need to adjust to include this demand as well.
What can we look forward to in your upcoming collection?
Since the world has become a multicultural village, my upcoming collection will also reflect color, fabric and techniques from all around the world.

Rapid Fire:


If you were a time traveler and could visit another time and place to immerse yourself in its style and culture, what would be the time and what would be the place?
Karachi in 3020
If you weren’t a designer you would be ——–and why?
In child entertainment business as I really wanted to do it.
The celebrity you would love to design clothes for?
Muhammad Ali Jinnah
‘Amir Adnan’ in one word, will be?
What is fashion?
Preventing frenzy
We saw your last collection in hues of skin and white, what is the role of color in fashion for you?
Color is a very important element that needs to be in line with weather and time of the year.
How has recession affected the fashion industry especially the label Amir Adnan?
It has affected every sphere of life. Expensive clothes are less in demand and vice versa.
One thing, which the world doesn’t know about you?
I live in rags
by Shaheen Rajan
A happy soul with a ready smile, Ali Ansari is a passionate RJ, VJ and an upcoming musician; we met over coffee at Sensation’s office for a quick chat, and found out that this young’un is a lot more than just a talented entertainer.

The moment Ali entered my office there was the air filled up with energy all around him. He is young, vibrant, loves to play music and is highly motivated towards releasing his album. He walked in with a bling in one ear and a friend on one arm (no silly, it wasn’t a girl, it was a guy). He came in with an almost tangible aura of excitement and soon got into the flow and got the party started. Although he is very young compared to other people we have featured in this section and relatively new, there is no talent that he lacks.

Ali started at a tender age of 19 with radio, then moved on to television after two years, still a very young age, his journey from Aaj TV to Hum TV was practical and efficient. Presently he hosts a show on ARYONE world this show on gadgets and games along with shows on FM he is all the rage for teenagers these days.

With an emerging passion for music, Ali is all inspired to release his music album in the coming times. This fervor and ardor for music was obvious and shone through in Dino’s album Suno Zara, where he is featured in two songs, ‘I need to love you’ and ‘tere naal’, which is sung by Dino and have rap verses by Ali Ansari. On the way to produce his album, his first presentation will be a English, Urdu and Punjabi rap song called Senorita which is already playing on FM stations these days.

Considering himself the pioneer of introducing rap in Hip Hop music (Last we heard some good rap was in [eP]’s alternative rock album by Ahmed Ali Butt), he plans to bring in a new era to the local music scene. He says, “I would want to come up with whole a new era of talented people with unique skills in music. I want the people to know that we are a complete set of music-speaking, music-talking and music-walking generation. I would want people to go attend concerts, gigs, it is a good thing for the music scene to grow but will take time”.

In process of working on his album, he writes his own lyrics, composes his own songs, and the production is done by Faraz Haider, who recently worked on Dino’s album as well. Ali Ansari is in thought process of producing the video of his first song Senorita.

Ali proclaims our work is improving our industry is growing and the new coming generation is rightly innovative when it comes to media and entertainment. He feels that the older generation is conservative cultural wise but the new generation is quite broad minded, keeping our cultural and social limitations in mind. Keeping this is mind he has tried to avoid any swear words in his rap songs until and unless I make a song for haters, laughs dramatically.

Of the two mediums, radio and television, he prefers the former one. “Radio is a hit thing for me”, he says. He prefers radio as he can easily joke around, take things in control and move them on his way. He loves the mystery involved with radio, he loves the fact that people listening to him are not aware of his looks or how he dresses up, all the public gets attracted to is sweet, mesmerizing voice.

When asked where he spends all the money he earns at this bubbling age, with no surprises involved, he said, “Buy shoes, hang out, clothes, and treating friends”. His favourite attires come from Armani, with a good taste in clothes and perfumes he is about to be the next heartthrob kid in town.

For the coming generations he thinks education and getting good grades should be the primary motive. He is a firm believer of sitting in the right kind of gatherings, as bad jamboree can ruin the naïve mind and one’s life.

On a last note he says, “Respect your parents, and family and remember your family comes first.” Well, Asta-la-vista baby, adios!

These lyrics from Eminem’s latest number make so much sense at this point in time…Also, it is essentially one of his best works ever.


Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that’s alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that’s alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

I can’t tell you what it really is
I can only tell you what it feels like
And right now there’s a steel knife
In my windpipe
I can’t breathe
But I still fight
While I can fight
As long as the wrong feels right
It’s like I’m in flight
High of a love
Drunk from the hate
It’s like I’m huffing paint
And I love it the more that I suffer
I sufficate
And right before im about to drown
She resuscitates me
She fucking hates me
And I love it
Where you going
I’m leaving you
No you ain’t
Come back
We’re running right back
Here we go again
It’s so insane
Cause when it’s going good
It’s going great
I’m Superman
With the wind in his bag
She’s Lois Lane
But when it’s bad
It’s awful
I feel so ashamed
I snap
Who’s that dude
I don’t even know his name
I laid hands on her
I’ll never stoop so low again
I guess I don’t know my own strengthJust gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that’s alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that’s alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

You ever love somebody so much
You can barely breathe
When you’re with them
You meet
And neither one of you
Even know what hit ’em
Got that warm fuzzy feeling
Yeah them chills
Used to get ’em
Now you’re getting fucking sick
Of looking at ’em
You swore you’ve never hit ’em
Never do nothing to hurt ’em
Now you’re in each other’s face
Spewing venom
And these words
When you spit ’em
You push
Pull each other’s hair
Scratch, claw, bit ’em
Throw ’em down
Pin ’em
So lost in the moments
When you’re in ’em
It’s the rage that took over
It controls you both
So they say it’s best
To go your separate ways
Guess that they don’t know ya
Cause today
That was yesterday
Yesterday is over
It’s a different day
Sound like broken records
Playin’ over
But you promised her
Next time you’ll show restraint
You don’t get another chance
Life is no Nintendo game
But you lied again
Now you get to watch her leave
Out the window
Guess that’s why they call it window pane

Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that’s alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that’s alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

Now I know we said things
Did things
That we didn’t mean
And we fall back
Into the same patterns
Same routine
But your temper’s just as bad
As mine is
You’re the same as me
But when it comes to love
You’re just as blinded
Baby please come back
It wasn’t you
Baby it was me
Maybe our relationship
Isn’t as crazy as it seems
Maybe that’s what happens
When a tornado meets a volcano
All I know is
I love you too much
To walk away though
Come inside
Pick up your bags off the sidewalk
Don’t you hear sincerity
In my voice when I talk
Told you this is my fault
Look me in the eyeball
Next time I’m pissed
I’ll aim my fist
At the dry wall
Next time
There will be no next time
I apologize
Even though I know it’s lies
I’m tired of the games
I just want her back
I know I’m a liar
If she ever tries to fucking leave again
I’mma tie her to the bed
And set the house on fire

Just gonna stand there
And watch me burn
But that’s alright
Because I like
The way it hurts
Just gonna stand there
And hear me cry
But that’s alright
Because I love
The way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie

by Shaheen Rajan

If I say there is no place like Karachi, many of you out there would condemn me for being biased-but the fact is, there actually is no place like Karachi. For me, Karachi is home. No amount of globe trotting could entice me to put down my anchor elsewhere for my city would beckon me back with all the peculiarly particular things that make up this city of lights. And to thee my land, I return.

So in the section, allow me to take you on an expedition of Karachi in summer of 2009. We won’t be journeying the places but events that marked this season-irrespective of time. So let’s begin our journey through the two months that held a lot of excitement and anticipation…in segments.

Glitz and glamour

Although I would never endorse the divide between the Lahore and Karachi fashion fraternity, I do think Karachi has a population that can marginally appreciate fashion more. This season, the biggest wave created in the world of fashion was by the Veet fashion show, where maestros like Maheen Khan, Nomi Ansari, HSY and Khadi Khaas showcased their latest collection. The event earned the deserving hype and acclamation, and was a roaring success. Following Veet, another gem came to Karachi from the land of rivers-Nida Azwer. This Indus valley graduate had it all, from contemporary yet classic ensembles to understated grace and glitzy chic-an absolutely fashionably-entertaining show! Besides that, another event that is worth mentioning is the launch of a wedding bible by a photographer, Munna Mushtaq. Although Dulhan-his wedding compilation- is worth a glance, the event and mishaps were not so entertaining. It reminds me of an old adage ‘one should stick to what one does best’, but we definitely wish him bestest.
Although the perfect season for designers to bring in their lawn collection is March and April, we saw some designers doing the honors in the sticky summer season. While Paressa stocked wisely at Chen One, Yasir Waheed chose to hold an exhibition in a five star hotel. Following ‘better late than sorry’, eh? Talking about exhibitions, we saw one by Nasrin Valika as well. If the name doesn’t ring a bell, it’s okay really. She is an artisan, dealing with jewelry and has a makeup studio as well. We would say nothing impressive but a sweet woman.


For this one, the whole country was embraced by enthusiasm and pride. We had theatre screens all around the city, hotels and rooftops were booked way in advance and streets were almost deserted while the match was going on. And after the victory, one really understood what it meant to live in real Karachi. Traffic jams, young boys dancing on the road, sea view was flooded with people, fire works, and this wave was persistent for one whole week. Radio, TV shows, lounges, cafes, everywhere cricket was the talk of the town. The positivism was direly needed and perfectly celebrated.


After a whole set of extra-cool, techno-savvy, super-smart looking and outstanding phones, Nokia brought to Karachi launch of Nokia N97. Packed with widgets, 3.5 inch sliding tilt display, 3.5mm jack for headphones, Nokia Maps, A-GPS receiver, 32GB built in memory, 5megapixel camera, WLAN, Bluetooth along with other amazing features-it was a sure treat for all the high-techs of the city.

Rhythmic Beating

After 6 years, Hadiqa made a smashing come back with her latest album ‘Aasmaan’. The album was very well-received and her record label-Fire Records, went a long way to glamorize the event and make her come back the headline news. What is very interesting about her latest venture is her experiment with different languages and genres without losing her own specialized ethnic touch. She most definitely brought the much needed zinc back in our music industry.
Talking about music, how can we forget about the distressing demise of Michael Jackson. Never did we see such hero-worship for a man by masses who was previously accused of the most heinous crimes possible. Nonetheless, our media paid a deserving tribute to the legend, along with special performance around the city by famous groups like Sonu Dangerous to pay accolades to the legend that will live forever in the hearts of many music lovers.
Despite the arguments of Shaan and Samina Pirzada on television shows about whether Indian films should be allowed in Pakistani cinemas or no, our channels continue to promote Bollywood ventures on massive scale. We saw ARY Digital joining hands in promoting ‘Kambakht Ishq’ starring Kareena Kapoor and Akshay Kumar. There was a premiere night held for the elites and distribution of passes through morning shows for the masses. If only all these efforts were directed for…

The sad story

Another story to make headlines was of heroine being smuggled to Saudi Arabia from our country. Residents of Karachi were arrested in the foreign land when drugs were found in their sandals. The detention was dealt by our government that pleaded that innocents not be punished. Fingers were pointed at the travel agency and family members of the travelers for being possible culprits. These Korangi residents not only suffered public humiliation but the scared purpose of the visit was also tarnished.


Many other events marked the season, which although were not expansive, held special importance. They cake and flower delivery services on Father’s Day by many NGOs and special people organization was a heart-warming event. Other than that, driving classes, summer camps, language classes, and many of the same sort provided entertainment to the bored youth. And the best of all were the bar-b-ques held at beaches…summer would never be complete without them.
by Shaheen Rajan

How many times have you returned from a date to be greeted by a call from your best friend, jumping to know all the details and you wishing that you had something better to tell than sighing and frowning? Welcome to fraternity. What men usually don’t pay attention to while courting is that a woman, irrespective of her age and status, expects certain decorum. No, I am not talking about chivalry, I am referring to those petty details that men tend to casually overlook. So our female celeb fraternity and I bring to our massive male population some guidelines about courting women and wooing a femme fatale.


Many men would be surprised to know that women generally have a fetish for feet. So if getting regular pedicures mar your masculinity, take other measures to ensure you have clean, smooth feet. Also, dirty shoes are one of the major turn off for many women. ‘I can’t stand men with dirty shoes, especially white ones’ comments Nirma and Fauzia.

Body Odor!

Based on empirical evidence, I can surely say that body odor is the top reason a woman wouldn’t look twice at you. Men are cursed with over active sweat glands but we surely do have more than enough colognes and deodorants to combat it. At the same time, clumsy about hygiene (slobs to be precise) are a major turn off too. Natasha wincingly shares, “Body Odor! And anything else unhygienic like long nails, bad breath, etc. Ewww!”

Bragging Business

Men usually assume that showing off their wealth would impress a lady when it’s quiet the other way round. Women find such behavior not only superfluous but also irritatingly dominating. Ayesha Omer candidly exclaims, ‘showing off your material possession is definitely one of the major turn offs for me’. Adding to this, Nida said, ‘designer belts with sparkling stones are so in-your-face and repulsive!’.


Another thing women find abhorrent in a man is the inability to talk in an impressive manner. This includes broken or incorrect English, bragging, being ignorant and rude. And talking the hind legs of a donkey is a women’s job, please leave it to us. Men who either talk excessively or cling to their girls immediately turn a woman off. Oh and sense of humor! You know we love to laugh and giggle, and when you fail to either share a joke or crack one, we intuitively take a step back.

Respect Aspect

Although anyone human deserves respect, women generally have to demand it. And men are sensitive enough to always respect women they are courting. But that’s not enough! ‘If a person can’t respect a woman other than me, it’s a flaw in his character. I can’t expect much from him’, Nadya Mistry explains. So, if you can’t find it in yourself to respect or appreciate women at large, be sure your woman will be on a lookout for someone who can.
by Shaheen Rajan

As it seems, 3 am is my prime time for penning down (or rather typing out) my thoughts. Yet again, it’s the same time and being an insomnia-inflicted person, I sit down to write about something that has been on my mind for a while.

For people who have crossed paths with finance in their academic life would know what an investment portfolio is. It is essentially a bundle of investments of varying altitudes, serving the purpose of maximizing returns while minimizing risk.

If you step back and observe, our life is made of a portfolio as well-investment portfolio of emotions. Family, friends, beloved, with each and every individual, we have or formulate a bond, invest time and feelings and expect a return of some sort. We chose people who are least risky-in other words, we choose people who are most dependable and thus worthy of our investment.

But unlike numbers and trade, emotions aren’t as tangible or predictable.

Beyond your nucleus family, there is a market of all kinds of people. There is a possibility that you might make a wrong choice, invest in the wrong person and suffer loss in the form of heartache and disappointment.

This said, I wanted to find the answer of choosing the right investment prospect. I have suffered a loss recently and I wanted to make calculated choices from now on. There is so much that a person can take and I have reached my limit!

My first, and rather obvious, option is saving. I have the option of not investing at all. I can maintain “clinical” relations and safeguard my emotions from being trampled upon.

The sad bit is I wasn’t made for this. I can’t help befriending people (although I have controlled my impulsive friendships and craving to know people of all sorts by far and large) and creating bonds to be cherished over years. Therefore, my only option is to make wise choices.

Wise choices? As if! Trial and error hasn’t worked for me. I have made mistakes and never repeated them. But there are just so many ways of ending up at the same painful hub that I do tend to, unintentionally, thread one of the lanes from time to time (never the same lane, mind you).

Bringing this discussion to a rather abrupt end, I have formulated a personal conclusion:

Love your family. I have wasted many years being a rebellious teenager and wish hadn’t. I have no regrets for those adventures made me the person I am today. And I am absolutely satisfied with my being. Anyway, the point is, your family will stick by you through thick and thin. Friends, more than friends, much much more than friends, and other such characters will stay with you but for them, they come first. On the other hand, your family will have you as their top most priority-always. Moreover, they are the safest investment.

I certainly don’t mean to imply that one should stop making friends or falling in love. Do that-it adds color to an otherwise simple canvas of life. Just keep this in mind: for them, they will come first. Don’t expect otherwise and call for a heartache. Trust, with reservation. But love, with abundance. Like financial investments, least risky emotional investment will reap moderate emotional return. Strike a balance, trust your family, love your friends and the-much-more-ones, and be happy.

Happy balancing!

(P.S if you have a personalized formula-do share!)

by Shaheen Rajan