If a man doesn’t call you, it’s because he doesn’t want to call you. If he doesn’t invite you to go out, it’s because he doesn’t want to see you. If he treats you like shit, it’s because he doesn’t care. If he let’s you go, it’s because he doesn’t want to be with you.
When a man says “I am not ready, but you are the love of my life, and the only one I want, but now is not the right time,” it’s simply because he doesn’t want you.
Don’t keep playing his confusing games. Don’t justify him. When a man wants to be with a woman, he stays with her, without lies, excuses and complications. Stop being genuine and naive, and stop justifying his every excuse and complication.
Put yourself first. You do not need someone who doesn’t know what he wants, you do not need someone who does not recognise your worth. You deserve a man who knows you are worth it and is ready to fight the world for you.
Stop breaking your own heart for someone who probably won’t be as good as you expect anyway. Give yourself the opportunity to be happy, and be with someone who actually deserves you.
I don’t know why do we hang on to something we know we’re better off letting go. It’s like we are scared to lose what we don’t really have. Some of us say that we’d rather have something than absolutely nothing, but the truth is, to have it halfway is harder than not having it at all.
I know it’s not easy. But darling, please understand that you need to cut contact with toxic people in your life. At first, it feels miserable. Like you are going cold turkey from an addiction. But as time goes on, you will come to discover that each passing day brings unexpected blessings. You begin to develop self-respect, boundaries and true friendships. Instead of running around absorbing and forgiving everything, you spend time with people who do not behave in a way that requires constant explaining to begin with. This freedom allows your spirit to thrive. Someday, you will look back and wonder how you tolerated interacting with such unheard people.
And you well. Because I have. And it is only the natural course of things.