Sounds like an oxymoron right? Well, it could be true from a different angle. This is how Chris Manby explains it in her book ‘The Matchbreaker’:

‘I am surprised you haven’t been snapped yet’ says Poupeh.

‘I am surprised too,’ Lindsay said flatly.

‘I think it’s because you are afraid if being alone,’ Poupeh announced.

‘That doesn’t make any sense!’ Lindsay snorted. ‘If I was afraid of being alone, I’d never be out of a relationship.I can manage perfectly well without anyone.’

‘Sure. Most people can. Manage, that is. It’s the ultimate low-risk strategy.’

‘What do you mean by that?’

‘Falling in love with someone gives them the power to hurt you. When I say that you are afraid of being alone, I suppose that more specifically, I think you are afraid of being left alone. You haven’t opened your heart up to anyone because you are frightened of the hole they would leave if they went away again.’

To me, this makes absolute sense. And you?