No no, I don’t mean it in the way many people in my region chant ‘go America go’. I say it to cheer this lively, super-amazing lot of people who add color to our lives (amm, even if it is neon orange in the broad day light!). They are generous, funny, loud, straight forward and honest. I can personally vouch for all these traits for my to-be beau and a very very dear friend happen to be Punjabis! Here we talk only about Punjabi girls and their hand-down appeal – so let’s get started!
It’s sad how many stereo-typical terms are associated with Punjabi women: Loud. Tacky. Dominating. Laraaki. Big in size. And again, loud. Many seem to forget that the beautiful, slender, groomed and talented Punjabi girls who are also quite the norm. It seems like the image that comes to our mind when we say “Punjabi girl” is a big-sized female in a colourful Laacha, helping irrigate Pakistan’s agricultural lands by jumping in the fields trying to entertain a disinterested man, or eating a HUGE paratha dripping with ghee, and yelling so loudly that her lungs are about to fall off on G T Road, screaming “mere naal bakwaas na keeta kar naeen te tera bootha tor diyaan gee”. And yes, she IS pretty, even though she is all of the above.
BUT HERE IS THE IRONY OF THE WHOLE SITUATION:
Day after day, the civil, tameezdaar and wonderfully peace-loving Karachiite (or Urdu-speaking) men fall in love with Punjabi women. And not just them. The other provinces have joined in too……Sindhis, Balochs, Pathans. The question remains “why”? Farahnaz Zahidi Moazzam, an independent blogger, discovered the following reasons, after careful observation and asking around:
1. NEED A CHANGE
“All my life,” said a friend when he was choosing a girl to marry at the ripe old age of 23, “I have seen my mom, sisters, cousins, aunts – so proper. They don’t laugh too loud. They talk in aap janaab. They wear light blues and pastel pinks and beige. And I am like that too….the subtle aap janaab type. So somehow, the idea of a colourful lady in red appeals to me. Who laughs to her hearts desire and speaks her mind. You know, Phuljharee-type.” “Phuljharee-type?” I asked him to confirm I had heard correctly. “Yes yes. the Phuljhuree, Titlee type. For a change you know,” he affirmed. That’s when I somehow understood it. The firecracker butterfly fun brand actually works for a lot of men. That DOES NOT mean other provinces and ethnicities are bereft of phuljharees. But maybe it is inbuilt genetic selection that men seem to like the “made in Punjab” variety increasingly.
2. THE “KHULLA DULLA ISHTYLE”
“At least with a Punjabi girl, you don’t spend your life wondering what’s under the cool demeanour,” said another anon friend. (And yes, it’s better my informants stay unnamed, lest they face consequences at the hands of the non-Punjoo women in their lives!). “She is who she is. Ghussay mein ho ya khush, kam az kam pata to chal jaata hai. You know how we men are, yaar. We are bad mind-readers, and women expect us to be just that. At least this way, you know that it is what it is. In your face. Jo hay wo hay. At least she’ll say it and not keep it in her heart for the next decade,” he said. And that’s one general impression about Punjabis that yes, under the umbrella term “Punjabi” come people who are not afraid to be. Plus, they are less formal and more casual. Less takallufaat and formalities, and more of Lath Maar stuff.
3. THEY ARE LOOKERS
“For guys, it’s all about looks. And Punjabi girls are mostly good looking. For me that is the single most important factor. As it is, I like her to be not stick thin,” said another informant. Need I say more?
4. THEY HAVE A LOT OF FIRE
With the package of the whole loud, khulla dulla ishtyle, comes a genuine spirited fieriness. Being passionate. Being fiesty. Humourous. Hulla gulla and fun. “I’m telling you, the ‘wujood e zann se hai tasweer e kainaat mein rang’ wala shair was written for Punjoo girls,” said one know-it-all, in his second year of a happy engagement with a Punjabi girl, while he himself has ancestors from Lucknow. My two cents to my friend were: Make sure you know how to handle the fire, before you get scalded.
5. THEY ARE SUCH FOODIES
And men like food. So in a Punjabi girl, they dream of someone who will be able to share his excitement over puri bhaaji, nihari, gola kabab, kharay masalay ka qeema and biryani. But she will also bring into his life the joys of aloo kay parathay, murgh cholay, sarson ka saag and makkai ki roti, and Punjabi pulao. She will understand the cliche that the way to his heart is through his tummy, simply because hey, the way to HER heart is also through her tummy.