I am not in the best of my moods, primarily because my best friend is being terribly weird with me. You call me fat, ugly and a loser, all in one sentence and if I return the favor, I am being bitchy and you strut out without as much as a backward glance. Why? Am I less of a person than you are/ Or are you too high and mighty that the world should take your crap while your balk when someone as much as purrs in your presence. It’s just not fair.
I was kidding. You should know better than to think otherwise. I mean you should know me better than that. Also, honey, nobody likes to be the recipient of uncalled meanness, even as a joke. We each have our share meanness to deal with in the world; that’s not what best friends are for. Or friends for that matter.
Let’s walk down the memory lane and relearn what it means to be a good friend:
A good friend will visit you in hospital and say “Get well soon” and leave. But a true friend sits near you and says “The nurse is hot; take your time to get well.”
A true friend is always honest no matter what.
It is your duty to tell the truth, even when you know that the truth may hurt and possibly even cost you your friendship (which it won’t if you follow the other 9 rules below).
Never take something without permission, even if you know that your friend will be okay with it. Just ask for permission first.
A true friend is someone you can rely on.
When you make a promise you will always honor it, and when you know you won’t be able to stick to your promise it’s best to be honest and tell your friend that you can’t keep to the promise.
If you say that you’ll do something or be somewhere at a certain date and time, then be there no matter what.
A true friend respects time, property and beliefs.
- Time is respected by not wasting it. Be punctual for appointments and let your friend know if you’ll be late or can’t make it at all.
- Property is respected by not damaging it. Treat other people’s belongings with care and love.
- Beliefs are respected by not judging. If you know that your friend has certain beliefs and morals, respect them, even if you don’t agree with them.
4- Bros Before Hoes
Please excuse the expression but I found it very fitting.
Choosing bros before hoes means that you don’t choose a girl or a boy over your friend. Don’t cancel your plans with your friend or let your friend down just because you want to be with someone you’re interested in.
If the guy or girl you are interested in is really special to you, you can always ask your friend first and they’ll likely understand. But a true friend doesn’t drop you to be with someone else.
A true friend will sacrifice their own comfort or happiness and put you first.
They are selfless and would not do something for financial or material gain if they knew that it would have a negative effect on your life.
A true friend you will stand up for you when you need it. Also when you don’t ask them to.
A true friend is not for sale and will never do anything that will compromise your success or happiness.
A true friend is patient with you. They are understanding when things need time to change or get better and won’t judge you even when you make the same mistake over and over. As long as you’re making the effort to get better.
8- Laugh Together Cry Together
A true friend is not a fair-weather friend. They are there for you in good times and in bad times. A true friend also shares their own success with you when they achieve it.
A true friend is not scared to tell you what you’re doing wrong . They’re not scared to seriously intervene if they see that something is seriously bad for you or if you’re going down the wrong path.But they always support their criticism with advice that can help you improve.
Don’t just say “You’re going to go bankrupt with your new business plan”. Tell them why you think their new business plan will fail. E.g. “You’re putting all your money into something that is not real, or there is an expiry date on the products you’re buying and I don’t think you’ll be able to sell even 10% of what you’re buying”.
A true friend has the ability to forgive. Everyone is human and we all make mistakes at times. We may even break one or more of these golden rules of being a true friend, but if you realize that you messed up and you really show that you’re sorry and try to make things right, a true friend will be able to forgive you. (Just don’t mess up in the same way again because there is a limit to forgiveness).
You know that I love you and that you mean a lot to me. Don’t be a brat and pick up a fight needlessly please. Let’s talk..