We have heard many a people share their lessons that theylearnt when they were on their death bed. They should have lived more, beenmore generous or courageous, so on and so forth.
I am just sick. Make that very sick. Not dieing though. Yet,I have realized something today. Something all of us know already but are tooBUSY to acknowledge or remember. I have learnt that:
You come first.
Yes, you. For your own self, you should come first.
Even when there is no dearth of people who love you,appreciate and respect you, there is only one person who will always be therefor you and who you can count on: You.
From here on, I will talk about myself only. Therefore, thispost now becomes truly subjective.
Being a workaholic, I spend 80% of my time at work. But whenI am sick and vulnerable, work or people at work cannot be by my side. On thecontrary, they might get mad at you for being absent. After all, corporationsdon’t thrive on compassion or empathy. It is a dog-eat-dog corporate world, andyou realize it when you find it’s back facing you. Yes, there will be friendsbut they won’t leave work to be with you and help you cope with your ailment.
Next come relationships: friends, family, better halves andbitter halves. Well, now what do I say about them; after all, it is a sensitiveterrain. Well, they will TRY to be there for you. But some of your familymembers might be abroad, some might have to be at their respectiveuniversities; some could be at work and some at their parents’ house. In a nutshell, you might be at home alone. Alone to take care of yourself.
Friends have their own lives to take care of. It is purelyevil to expect them to drop everything and coming running your way because,well, you are sick and can really use some company.
Better half *sigh* I know if it were up to him, he wouldspend every second by my side. But he needs to be at work and earn, for us.
I am not complaining; really, I am not. What I am trying tosay, however, is that you got to take care of yourself. Prioritize and includeyourself in the list. When you have to be at the gym and get your heart pumpingfor better health, you must go. If you need to give time to friends and family,manage work and take out time for them.
Love yourself, always and foremost. Don’t become a selfishbrat. Love others, and yourself s well.